Where do you find your worth?

What do phrases like “follow your heart” and “Be Yourself”, pop music, feminism, and selfies have in common? Well, first of all, they’re very popular among girls. Second of all, I don’t like them. Third of all, they’re all self-centered and self-glorifying, which is the reason for why I don’t like them. Ok, maybe taking a picture of yourself once in awhile is ok, but don’t overdo it.

Turn on just about any pop song, and you’ll hear the message that we girls are great, independent, and strong. Look around at all the little girls wearing shirts that say “Follow your heart!” or “Be-you-tiful!” Look at the “big girls”, the adults supposedly standing for equal rights for women to the point where they seem to wish guys didn’t exist. Check your Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, and look at all the pictures of girls posing to make it look as if their life is perfect.

And yet underneath all this show of self-confidence stand girls, women, and teenagers who are insecure and wonder about their worth. They think that they have to prove their worth in meaningless sayings, makeup and Instagram filters, or by embracing the message of feminism and claiming that they can do anything guys can do. They hope that somehow, all this will make them have more worth.

But I’m a Christian. I don’t need to prove my worth; my worth is in Christ, not myself. I know that I’m “good enough”, not because of who I am, but because Jesus paid for my sin and I’m free from it. Since Jesus took my place, not only did he pay for my sin, but he also made me righteous. Since I’m justified, I have the same worth that I would have if I had never done anything wrong in my life. So, nothing I do can change my worth. Ultimately, it’s not even about me. My whole purpose in life is to glorify God, so there’s no point in me focusing on my worth.

All that to say:

Don’t follow your heart, for “the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately sick” (Jeremiah 17:9)

Don’t focus on how wonderful, strong, and independent you are, because we are completely dependent on God’s grace.

And as for feminism, that’s a whole other topic that Bethany Baird and Kristin Clark at the Girl Defined movie can explain a lot better than I can, so I’m not even going to try.


Acts 20:24 “But I do not account my life of any value nor as precious to myself, if only I may finish my course and the ministry that I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify to the gospel of the grace of God.”